It occurred to me that after I got engaged in August of 2004, all that most of my friends and family wanted to talk to me about was The Wedding. Everything centered around The Wedding. I'm also a Social Worker, and it's in my nature to think about issues and dynamics much more than the next person does. It occurred to me during that time in my life that people's expectations of being engaged is just shy of literally becoming Cinderella herself. This was clear to me through people's bubbling questions and expectations of me and how I must've felt and reacted to being Engaged. Obviously, life isn't always this transparent and people do not operate on such a surface level. In fact, I found my engagement year to be an incredibly trying one - there are so many changes occuring and so much planning for the future that we sometimes take the present for granted. All the focus and emphasis is placed around The Wedding - a far-off, sometimes even non-existent date, which we expect with its arrival to absolve us of all of our anxieties and grievances with the present.
I'm making this site for those that need some help in navigating through their engagement. I understand that getting engaged is a lot more complicated than just planning the event in itself. It's about feelings, changing relationships, and a huge life transition that sometimes doesn't happen all on its own. In addition to my social work background, I can also help you plan this thing. I'm providing tons of information and reviews of vendors i've picked up along the way. I'm adding things you don't want to talk to your friends about, or even your mom (and of course not your fiance!) I'm adding a column centering exclusively around 'The Relationship' which will undergo many changes as it matures from bofriend-girlfriend status, to getting engaged, to being married.
I hope you enjoy reading this as much as I enjoyed creating it. Enjoy. And Good Luck.